I know the pieces fit cuz I watched them fall away ....

Well, be fore-warned. I think this one is going to be a doozy.

(I told you guys that I usually write about serious stuff....)

I’ve been wanting to write about this for a few days now – but writing about it on MySpace would put me into a uncomfortable spot. I’m uncomfortable enough as is…


Preface:
“C” is a friend of mine. We’ve known each other for about 2 years. We have a good amount of arguments, but they are good natured. We just don’t agree about things all the time, and we have pretty different views on things – but we still have become pretty good friends over time. This is the guy that came over here the night that my son “did the deed” that got him on lockdown for a month because I was so upset.

For as long as I’ve known him, he and his wife “E” have seemed pretty happy. They have a beautiful little boy, “B” – almost 2 yrs old. They are young – but so were Keith and I once! *sigh* He’s talked to me about some arguments that they have as a couple, but nothing major. Pretty normal stuff. He works, and she stays home with "B". He was fine with that - wanted to take care of her. They have gone through some rough times, and a lot of changes lately – but they have come through it unscathed. They were just over here a few weeks ago for a cookout, during which, “C” professed his adoration for “E”. She and I aren't really close, but she is his wife, so we've always been friendly - if that makes sense.

Fast forward to last Saturday:
The family and I are walking around Menards picking up a few things and looking at countertops. (We’re re-doing our kitchen, which could totally be a blog series unto itself…) My phone rings… The conversation goes something like this..
“C” – Hey
Me – Hey. What’s up?
“C” – Umm.. I think “E” and I are done.
Me – Huh? What the hell are you talking about?
“C” - Yeah. I think the bet’s off.
Me – What?!?!
“C” – We just don’t get along anymore. We’re not happy.
Me - “C”, you guys have been through a lot in the past few months. New house – again. You’re starting a new job, she’s finally got her car back and isn’t stuck home by herself with “B” anymore. Give things a chance to calm down. You’re just all stressed out.
“C” – No, I think I’m going to stay at my mom’s after I drop “B” back off to her.

(Okay – writing it like that is getting on my nerves… so I’ll try to re-cap)



He basically tells me that I am the only one that he's told anything to, because everyone else will "go nuts". He asks me not to say anything to "E"because it will "just make things worse". He get's to the house to drop off the baby, says he needs to go in and talk to her. He says he'll call me later to explain more.

No call. No texts. I text him a few times. No reply. I start to get worried. He's 25, going through something pretty substantial .... and he's a big drinker. So yeah. I'm worried. I finally send him one that says I'm pretty much going to kick his ass if he doesn't respond to me, because making me worry about him is NOT cool.

He responded with: "Sorry"

That was it. Nothing else.

Meanwhile, "E" is texting me and Emailing me.. I'm trying to be careful about what I say. Not because I think I will give anything away, but because I still feel this sense of loyalty or something to "C" because he is my friend. I feel such compassion for "E". She is hurt and confused. She was completely blindsided. What am I supposed to say?

My friend has just done something that he swore he would never do. We've HAD this conversation before. We've TALKED about relationship problems, and how so many people just jump into a divorce or a split without trying to fix it first. He said he would never do that to "E" - Saturday, his balls shriveled up into nothing, and he totally up and did it.

I am hurt that he did this. I am angry that he's avoiding me. (Even though I'm pretty sure he's not calling me because he knows I'll have a few things to say that he doesn't want to hear.) I feel like I am in the middle, even though there isn't anything to be in the middle OF. She needs people to talk to - am I supposed to just ignore her messages? This girl is a mere 22 years old, the man she adored just up and said he didn't want to be with her anymore for whatever reason, and now she's by herself and a little 2 yr old.

So now I am pretty pissed off at a guy I am good friends with, and I still feel as though I am going behind his back by talking to "E" as often as I have been. I know that I am hardly a priority in this situation.. that other things need to come before I do - but he called me. He dropped that bomb, and now won't respond to me. I am so torn... and I almost feel like he pulled the wool over my eyes because of all the talks we've had that were contrary to what has now actually happened.

I'm just messed up about this whole thing. I hate when people I care about are going through hard times. I just hope things get better for them before they get worse. I don't think it's likely, but I can wish....

It does, however, make me realize something, though. Keith and I have beat the odds. We haven't become one of the many statistics of couples who got married early. We've been together since I was 17, and he was 19 or 20. Here we both are within 5 years of the big 40! Who knew?! We're awesome! :)