Vengeance is hers.......

So I wrote here before about people I know - couples I know - that for one reason or another are deciding to call it quits.

Well, two are decidING colectively.The other couple, it was decidED by one.

This is the one I am hoving problems with. I don't even know what to do. They are young. He is 26, she is 22. she is more of an aquaintence to me - but the past two months, she has moved in a lot closer to me...

HE is my friend, but I want to kick his ass for being such a dick - and going against everything he ever "believed in" in a relationship. Here's the thing about that - I've told him what I thought. I have made it no secret as to what I think about the whole thing. But he is my friend, and if there is any time that he needs friend in his life, it is now.

SHE and I are not that close - but sh'es needed a shoulder these past two months, and I have tried to be that for her. Trying to console her - to give her advice - to sooth her.. sometimes I think it works - but other times...? Not so much.

She has been wronged - don't get me wrong. But her idea is to do everything to him that has been done to her. She is out for blood - full of spite and vengeance.. and doesn't see how that is wrong. She says it's because she is "fighting back this time".. but this is not fighting back.. this is being vindictive.

She has started asking me specific questions - about him - and about the girl/woman/whatever he is seeing/screwing/whatever. She got upset with me because I "let" him bring this woman to my house (which is information that I did not disclose). She is upset with me because I won't give her information, and upset with me because I still concider him a friend.

I think what he is doing to her is wrong - and what makes it worse, is that he flip-flops. He has no time to himself to just STOP.. think, and figure out what he wants. So it seems as though he is playing them both.. who knows - maybe he is - although I tend to think he just has no idea what he wants.. and is a COMPLETE pussy who won't make a decision. But he is my friend.

I can't make her understand that being vindictive will do NO ONE any good. Not her, not him, not the other woman/whateverthehellsheis, and certainly not their 2 yr old baby boy. She thinks she has every right to be hurtful.. and to a point, I get it.

It may not have been my husband, but I have been wronged by important people in my life. I don't think there was ever a time, even when i was young and stupid, wanted revenge. If someone hurt me, i pushed them away. If I was treated like shit, I got away from the situation so it wouldn't happen again. (Not like i have any trust issues or anything...........) It is driving me CRAZY that she just doesn't get it. It is driving me crazy that even though she knows I don't want to be played between the both of them, that she still asks me questions that have answers I feel uncomfortable telling. I have told her I will not betray his trust by telliing her things he tells me, and I will not betray her trust by telling him things she tells me. ... yet she pushes.

She is closer to my son's age than she is to mine!!! a 22 yr old female is SOOO full of drama - and this is a dramatic situation .... so you can only imagine.

I am ready to wash my hands of all of it, and tell both of them to just leave me alone, and talk to me when they sign the divorce papers....

any profound words of advice?

Anyone?

Anyone?

Bueler? ............ Bueler?